Return to College
I returned to URI in the fall of 1952 with tuition, room and meals covered by the GI Bill. Wally began college as I returned again for my third year. It was great being with my brother again. He, four other returning veterans and I, rented a house in Wakefield, and that’s where we lived and studied for a couple of years. It was a great experience.
But something else happened during the summer of 1952. I was at the Cape with a couple of friends on a Saturday afternoon when I remembered an invitation to a “shower” for my cousin Claire Lafayette. I really didn’t want to leave the beach, but a second trait that I acquired from my mother kicked in, faithfulness or commitment. I had promised my mother that I would go to this event, so we headed back to Rhode Island on a hot summer afternoon. It was at this shower that I met my future wife, Dorothy Burke. We began to date in June and I proposed just before Christmas 1953. Her father said to me, “You’ll do.”
Marriage and family
We were married in September 1954 just after Hurricane Carol. I was completing my senior year at URI and Dot worked at Trifari Jewelry in
the office. We rented an apartment in Cranston, and our first child, Dennis, was born in February 1956. Dot was pregnant for most of the next four years with Stephen and then Kathleen; after another four years we had Jimmy. She was a very busy young woman. She managed the household and stayed at home with these very active children while I worked second jobs and took courses for my first Master’s Degree until the youngest of the first four children, Jimmy, began Kindergarten. We managed to have some camping vacations for a number of years and they were very enjoyable and memorable times. I remember traveling with the kids in back of the station wagon and singing, laughing and playing road games. At the campsites we would swim, hike, and build campfires. Our most ambitious trip was a two-week trip to Indiana to see my brother just before he was to be married. We went to Kentucky to meet his wife-to-be, Peggy, and then to Cumberland Lake in Kentucky and on to West Virginia on the way home. We had several outstanding “adventures” on the trip like being stuck in Kentucky mud and dealing with a vicious dog at 2 A.M. in West Virginia. These were the happenings that we look back on with pleasure. There were many weekend camping trips over the next few years. It was a part of our lives and made it possible for us to vacation on a minimum of money.
Teaching Career
My career began as a Physics and General science teacher at North Kingstown Junior-Senior High School. I enjoyed it except that we immediately went on double sessions that made for a compressed day and little time to prepare because a teacher for the next session was usually waiting for the room at the end of the five-hour school day. They did announce the construction of a new high school due to open the following year. Science teachers were much in demand in 1955 and Superintendents would call science teachers at home. I received such a call and accepted a position in Cranston before the year was up. For the following twelve years, I taught the sciences and mathematics at Hugh B. Bain Jr. High School. Married male teachers with families had a difficult time with finances. Most worked another job on weekends and during the summer. After a couple of summers at menial and low-paying jobs, Barry Smith, a friend of Wally’sI went to work part-time at Johnson & Wales Business College in a new program to improve reading and study skills among business school students. A friend of Wally’s, Barry Smith, had called me and asked me to help him at the college in a reading and study skills course for business school students. After teaching that summer and on to Saturdays during the next school year, I was asked to join with Barry and four other teachers to author a packaged reading program that was named “Programs for Achievement in Reading (PAR).” It was quite successful and I was offered a full-time position, but I remained as a part-time teacher for the College and full-time teacher in Cranston. I did author several more stories in the PAR package and also a manual for teachers. After three years, I decided to open my own part-time reading school (Basic Reading Skills) in Coventry on Saturdays and during the summers; we had purchased a home in Coventry in 1959. For several years, I rented a part of Coventry High School for six weeks of every summer to teach my own classes. I had as many as forty children enrolled and employed another teacher. In this way, I earned more in the summer than I had in summer jobs and had half of the summer off with the family besides. We had more wonderful camping trips with our four children. Dot also began a college program in Early Childhood; she desired to become a kindergarten teacher. Those plans were, however, destined to be put on hold when we were blessed with our fifth child, Christine, in December 1970. It had been nine years since the birth of Jimmy; it was a surprise, but a great blessing for the whole family in several ways.
During this period I also became active in and was also elected as the President of the Cranston Teachers’ Association. It was an extremely, time-consuming, non-paying position. That year the City of Cranston was in financial difficulty and announced during the summer months that the teachers would have to wait for our first pay of the school year until October—delaying two paychecks. This would have been disastrous for many male teachers and it was up to me (as the President) to confront the School Committee and eventually force payment of salaries when school began. For five years, I was very active in the politics of Teacher’ Associations. In 1966 I applied for and received a sabbatical leave at half pay to go to URI in the Master of Arts program for the teaching of reading. Dot went to work to make up the other half of my salary. Jimmy had started in kindergarten and my mother was available to care for him afternoons until I returned home for the day. The year was very fruitful for me and I received a Master of Arts Degree and a new job; I returned to Cranston was assigned as a Reading Consultant in the elementary schools. During the following summer, I was asked by the Superintendent to fill in for an elementary assistant principal for a few weeks at the beginning of the next school year. and, as that came to completion, I applied for and was appointed as the director of a federal program to formulate an experimental curriculum: The Fifth Quarter. The object of this curriculum was to form a “year around school program.” With a staff of forty part-time teachers writing all parts of the curriculum it was completed and the course objectives and suggested classroom activities for every secondary subject for the two high schools and three jr. high schools were printed for all teachers. The curriculum was adopted for the Cranston Secondary Schools even though the community rejected the actual year-around-school concept which was not surprising. Just before the end of funding and the completion of that project I was appointed to head the Vocational and Adult Education Department for Cranston Public Schools.
A Family Experience
Some time after I began this new position, the family had a life-changing experience. In November 1976, my oldest son, Dennis, and I were the last of the family to find salvation. Our youngest child, Christine, was then six years old and the grown children were Dennis, 20; Stephen, 19; Kathleen, 18 and James, 15. This was the 1970’s and the four oldest had been in the marihuana scene to various degrees. Jimmy tried “pot” and was caught. Dot felt helpless and got on her knees and prayed for God’s help. The help that came was completely unexpected; it came in the form of personal salvation for each of us and much activity in a little Assembly of God church. Jim was the first to visit the church and the night he returned home from a church service with some of his new friends it was clear to us that
something drastic had happened in his young life. His actual countenance changed from a rebellious teen to a kind and gentle, loving son. We each visited the church and individually accepted salvation over the next few months. I later served as the first Deacon of the church, Gospel Temple Assembly of God and Dot was the bookkeeper for many years. The kids became very active and leaders in the Youth Group. We were all very active with the church and continued activity as the church grew. Kathy was the first to marry in the church, followed a year later in marriage by Dennis who had graduated from URI and followed his CPA career and his fiance to Phoenix, Arizona. Steve and Jimmy married Christian girls later. Christine attended our Christian school and graduated; she later married another graduate. I must mention that we had a surprise one evening shortly after we joined the church. Jimmy, at age fifteen and a few months before he was saved caused a girl to become pregnant. Her parents offered to care for the baby rather than put it up for adoption. The baby was a boy and we all loved him very much. He is now a fine young man and is welcomed into our gatherings.
Adult/Vocational Education
Meanwhile, I worked very hard to develop the Adult and Vocational Education Program in Cranston. It was at that time that the “Great Society” reached its maximum funding so I spent much of my time writing for federal grants and was very successful. The program grew and by 1984 it encompassed programs in three cities. During this time, I served for a year as the president of the RI Adult Education Association and for several years after that as the Executive Secretary of the Adult Education Directors’ Association. One of the perks in my position was traveling each year to an annual conference. I was fortunate to travel to many cities in the U.S. in this way. Dot accompanied me on some of these trips. On two occasions, I spent time with Dennis: first in Seattle and later in Santa Monica after he was married.
Federal funding was winding down in 1982 and 83 and in 1984 I became eligible for retirement (at 30 years and 55 yrs old). I took that retirement in 1984 and then became the Principal and Administrator of our new Christian school: Gospel Temple Christian Academy. This offered a new challenge; I soon discovered that running a Christian school was a bit different from public school administration. In the six years I was at the academy, I concentrated on building the organization and on strengthening the curriculum. Dot also joined the staff and fulfilled an ambition she had had twenty years before when she became our first kindergarten teacher. She was very successful in that and much loved by students and parents. The school grew to eighty students and I retired in 1990 to allow for younger leadership. My efforts were recognized by a “Retirement Sunday” attended by most of the church. Although I retired from active administration, I did continue on as a consultant to help the new administration and also as a consultant for the New England Region of the Accelerated Christian Education Program with which the academy was affiliated. I also prepared a computer applications curriculum and taught that as an individualized program for several years. Kathy had also joined the staff while her two boys were at the school. At one point we had five grandchildren, two daughters and my wife and I at the school.
RETIREMENT
Both of us retired from active employment in 1994 to become full-time grandparents. There are thirteen grandchildren as of now: Matthew and Tom, Audrey, Lana, Stephen, Dennae, Lauren, Allison, Patrick, Nicholas, Danny, Aaron and Cole and two great grandchildren: Aiden and Torie. Since 1995, we have gone to Phoenix almost every year. We have flown a couple of times but we have usually driven. That has given us opportunities to see much of the country. Our favorite stop has been San Antonio. St. Louis, Colorado Springs and Dallas have been good stops too. We don’t care much for New Orleans or Houston. We also visited Toronto and Niagara Falls on a trip to Indianapolis for Valerie’s wedding. It was good to be with Wally’s family.
We keep pretty busy around the house most of the time. Dot does a lot of sewing; We bought her a super sewing machine, and she makes many gifts. I do some woodworking, teach computer applications and do a lot of reading along with yard chores. We’re both active with our church. When we feel like taking a day off we do.
In 2000 we went to Kingdom Bound in Buffalo, N.Y. with much of the family and the church. At the end of the week we continued on to Wisconsin with Bill and Pat Fooks to visit his family. We had a great time.